It can be easy to look at the everyday, mundane nature of life and ask ourselves this very question.
I remember reading a book in school that described people in the “rat race”. People going to and from their work and daily lives, like a swarm of mice going back and forth, back and forth, without taking the time to stop, take a breather and ask the question: “so why am I here again?”.
My name is Lolu and I’ve always been a person focused on keeping the main thing the main thing. For example, when I was at uni, my focus was on learning the specific things that I needed to know to pass my exams and get a good grade. Rather than studying everything under the sun that I had been taught on my course, because let’s be honest, not everything you learn will show up in your exam. Likewise, when someone asks me a question, I focus in on answering the exact question they’ve asked – focused on being as accurate as possible, rather than beating around the bush. As I said, I keep the main thing the main thing.
So when I ask the question “so why am I here again?”, I’m interested in understanding exactly what I need to do in life to fulfil my purpose. Because if we are not fulfilling our purpose, then what’s the point of life? Like really, what’s the point?……. There is no point.
So let’s see what the creator has to say about it.
In Genesis 1:26 we see God saying “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us.”
It’s like when people desire to have kids. Children resemble their parents; often have similar attributes to their parents; and are the fruit – the legacy of their parents’ lives. So when God created us in his image, to be like him, he created us to be his children – in relationship with him, reflecting his character.
God’s character is love. In fact God is love (1 John 4:8). He loves on us and we are an expression of his love in the world.
As God’s love is revealed to the world through us, people are drawn into relationship with Him. Therefore THEY become God’s children – reflecting His love and so the cycle continues… Just like generations in a family.
What is in your hand?
So let’s talk more about this expression of God’s love through us. God created each of us different and unique with different life experiences, abilities, passions, talents, personalities etc, so that we can express his love to the world in different ways.
So my question to you is the same as God’s question to Moses in Exodus 4:2 in the Bible: “What is that in your hand?” In Exodus, God was referring to the staff that Moses was holding. Moses would ultimately end up using this very staff – insignificant though it may have initially seemed – to perform miracles, demonstrating God’s power. So when I ask what is in your hand, I am asking, what do you have at your disposal? i.e. What experiences have you had in life? What is going on in your circle of influence or community? What are your abilities/ gifts/ talents? What are you passionate about? What moves you? What are the needs around you? What is your personality like?
Whatever it is, start there. Do SOMETHING. God wants to use it to express His love to the world through you.
Build and cultivate your relationship with God. As you do that, God’s Holy Spirit will reveal to you more about who you are and, as you journey with Him, He will guide you into what He wants you to do and will help you to refine, tweak or change accordingly. He will also BRING opportunities to you. Just be available to receive God’s love and for God to use you to show His love to the world.
So Lolu, what is in YOUR hand?
And this is the question I had to ask myself and my God in late 2016.
So let’s take inventory of me and my world and identify what is in MY hand (because I need to practice what I preach right?!)
1) I am a Nigerian chick who grew up in Scotland and I am single… so much to say, so little time!
2) And in my singleness I love to enjoy life and live a full and purposeful life – I volunteer, I travel, I socialise, I’m a corporate manager and I love to put an outfit together (because unlike Beyonce, I did NOT wake up like this).
3) I see women around me who are also single… but are so unhappy. And as a single woman I have also gone through times where I needed some encouragement as well.
4) I think that living the life you were created to live is what life is about and that this is what brings fulfilment.
5) I have a natural ability and confidence for communicating with people.
6) I am truthful and transparent about my own life. Because after all, being fake never helped anyone.
7) And last but certainly not least, I love Instagram.
So with that mixture of ‘stuff’ “in my hand” and after many conversations with God, I started The OTM Collective in June 2017.
The OTM Collective is a social media driven movement that encourages and inspires single women to “own this moment”, live their best lives and flourish in their God given purpose during this season of their lives.
The question I am constantly asking women on The OTM Collective Instagram stories, posts and videos is “single ladies, what are you doing with your single season?” After all, life doesn’t just begin when you get the ring. It begins way before that – regardless of how long a person’s single season might be!!
God wants us all to live full and purposeful lives NOW regardless of whether we are married or single. There is plenty that He wants to do in and through us on this earth. He also wants us to use this time to become the best version of ourselves, dealing with our insecurities, bad habits and mindsets. And to form healthy behaviours, healthy mindsets and build up a great relationship with Him.
This is what we talk about on The OTM Collective, with topics ranging from “live your best life in 2018” right through to “sexual habits of a single woman”. I try to be as real, authentic and transparent as possible about where I am on my journey so that others can also be freed to be real too and can therefore collide in a real way with the grace, love and power of a very real God.
For more from me check out The OTM Collective on:
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ theotmcollective
YouTube: Search for The OTM Collective: https://bit.ly/ 2rxthaD
So now it’s over to you. What is in YOUR hand?